The Best Piece Of Advice My Therapist Gave Me In My 20s About Setting Healthy Boundaries In Relationships
When I was 27, my therapist gave me an unforgettable piece of advice.
I was just starting to learn how to set healthy boundaries in relationships (I know, late right!?). I had been running myself ragged trying to please everyone.
But, like many men in their 20s, I was making a lot of mistakes in my relationships:
- I said yes to everything, often at the expense of my own needs and time.
- I wasn't expressing my feelings and needs clearly.
- I prioritized others' opinions and approval over self-validation.
- I avoided conflict because I was scared of rejection.
These words resonated with me when I heard them:
"Living in alignment with your values means facing the reality that you won't please everyone, all the time. And learning that that's ok."
That day, my whole life changed.
Since then, I've been trying to unlearn my old habits and accept that I can't please everyone all the time.
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"Living in alignment with your values means facing the reality that you won't please everyone, all the time. And learning that that's ok."
